Divorce - The Taboo Word
I was reading an article written in the “Citizen’s Blog” from Malaysia’s The Star News and the subject was about “Gatal” http://blog.thestar.com.my/alluserposts.asp?id=3076 which I would say is very much related to the subject about “Divorce”.
What madcat_1 wrote in her blog were so much similar encounters I went through when I got the taboo title “Divorce” ("taboo" that is, to the shallow minded senses of some communities living around my neighborhood). I became an INSTANT superstar and was the talk of the town! Well, honestly speaking, I wasn't the only victim to these wagging tongues! I know of some close friends who were facing the same rude encounters. I have my pride but those gossips from around me weren’t at all about encouragement, motivation and moving on with life; rather it became more DESTRUCTIVE to a life already at the brink of helplessness! My neighbors were mostly people who are academically well educated, career men and women, employees and employers of some very well known major companies operating in the area. So, I would expect to hear from the perspective part of their talks or gossips to be more constructive, inspirational and encouraging rather than CONDEMNING. Often, the causes of the breakup were to be blamed on the women. How could these groups of so-called “EDUCATED PEOPLE WITH HIGH CALIBERS” have any ideas about what I went through in my marriage? Do they really know just how much my self-esteem was traumatized by the heartbreaking experience? Have they any ideas at all, that they dare to make judgment to my PRIVATE life?
Yes, I agree with madcat_1 statement that says, “Because I am young, good-looking, have a good career and am independent, women like me have been frowned upon by other women especially married ones. Because they are insecure, they believe that women like me are after their husbands. As I have mentioned earlier, divorce is a traumatic, heartbreaking experience especially for someone with a family. Why would we want to break up another’s family? We have better things to do with our lives!”
So you married people out there, take care of your own family. Pray that your family stays together rather than being nosy about other people’s business.
~ It is foolish to speak scornfully of others. If you are smart, you will keep quiet. ~ Proverbs 11:12
What madcat_1 wrote in her blog were so much similar encounters I went through when I got the taboo title “Divorce” ("taboo" that is, to the shallow minded senses of some communities living around my neighborhood). I became an INSTANT superstar and was the talk of the town! Well, honestly speaking, I wasn't the only victim to these wagging tongues! I know of some close friends who were facing the same rude encounters. I have my pride but those gossips from around me weren’t at all about encouragement, motivation and moving on with life; rather it became more DESTRUCTIVE to a life already at the brink of helplessness! My neighbors were mostly people who are academically well educated, career men and women, employees and employers of some very well known major companies operating in the area. So, I would expect to hear from the perspective part of their talks or gossips to be more constructive, inspirational and encouraging rather than CONDEMNING. Often, the causes of the breakup were to be blamed on the women. How could these groups of so-called “EDUCATED PEOPLE WITH HIGH CALIBERS” have any ideas about what I went through in my marriage? Do they really know just how much my self-esteem was traumatized by the heartbreaking experience? Have they any ideas at all, that they dare to make judgment to my PRIVATE life?
Yes, I agree with madcat_1 statement that says, “Because I am young, good-looking, have a good career and am independent, women like me have been frowned upon by other women especially married ones. Because they are insecure, they believe that women like me are after their husbands. As I have mentioned earlier, divorce is a traumatic, heartbreaking experience especially for someone with a family. Why would we want to break up another’s family? We have better things to do with our lives!”
So you married people out there, take care of your own family. Pray that your family stays together rather than being nosy about other people’s business.
~ It is foolish to speak scornfully of others. If you are smart, you will keep quiet. ~ Proverbs 11:12
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